Follow the Action.

Follow the feeling, your feeling.  Follow the action, their action.  As much as you are loved, as much as your partner tells you they love you and offers dreams of the future, and words with ribbons on them, follow their actions.  It's actually pretty simple.  Where someone puts their action, spends their time, is where their heart really is.  It's not that we're perfect, it's not that we're not going to be self-centered at times, but the larger truth can get obscured behind words.  So gently waiting for someone to invest in you for a minute, a day, or a decision of some kind, is wise.   And if they don't, that's okay too.  You don't have to be mad at them or mad at yourself for spending too much time, but what you do have to look at is how much more time you want to spend in the illusion.  Illusions serve all of us from time to time; dealing with what we're not quite ready to deal with is a big step.  Admitting things we don't want to admit take a kind of courage that's hard to muster.  But I tell you, cataclysm is the language of the universe.  Being confronted with chaos, with the feeling of your life ripping apart is a gift.  Because there is a nugget in the midst of it that is pointing you towards your greatest future.  What you give up now pays off ten fold in what that energetic of surrender will ultimately create.  We need to give each other space to screw up and we need to give ourselves space to know when to step away.  Love isn't love if it's not reflected back in a way that makes you feel good, whole, and acknowledged.  From a friend, a parent or your lover, even from an ex-lover, you can expect more than the time of day without being bogged down by expectations.  There are reasonable expectations.  Wait for an action, be glad to get it, and be humble when you don't.  Say thank you and know either way that your gift has arrived.